It is one of those things that are hard-hitting for the closest of couples: the long-distance relationship. It is one of the hard times where you can have a partner, but be forlorn as heck. To make it through a long term – or short term – long distance relationship, you have to be persevering and dedicated. Mentioned below are some hacks to keep your long distance relationship warm.
Tip #1: Plan things out with your partner.
The foremost and the best thing you can do when it comes to long-distance relationships are to plan things out beforehand. How are you going to keep in touch? By phone, or email or Facebook? How often will you contact each other? Do you want to converse during set days of the week, or when your schedules permit it? Is there a plan for you to meet face-to-face, or will that not be possible? So, plan things out, so you know where you both stand on these fundamental issues.
Tip #2: Agree on contact frequency.
You’re going to be away from each other for a time, so you are going to have to keep in touch, but how often? Is it possible to contact your partner too frequently, even though you can’t be near them? The answer is yes. While it’s true that being apart from your spouse is not easy, think about how often you would contact them if they lived in the same city as you. If the answer is a couple of times a week, then don’t start calling them every day, because it’ll seem unnatural, and it could make things awkward. Similarly, you don’t want to force yourself to contact your partner too often.
Tip #3: Fix on the contact media.
You have to keep in touch. So the question is: how? Is it going to be email, phone, Skype, instant messaging, Twitter, Facebook? The possibilities these days are endless. However, you have to select something and stick to it. If you consent with your spouse that you will keep in touch with social media, and then you find that you never have time to log on, that’s a huge problem.
Tip #4: Don’t forget special events.
When you spend a long period of time away from your spouse, it’s easy to forget the “relationship” part of your life and fall into a more “me-centric” approach. While this may be entirely normal, it’s not something you should accept. You have to maintain the little joys of being with someone breathing, and one way to do that is to memorize special occasions. So do not forget anniversaries and birthdays. And don’t forget the other smaller events that may also mean a lot to your partner. If you’re inclined to ignore, create reminders for yourself in your calendar, and when the time comes, send your soul mate a little note that will bring a smile to their face.
Tip #5: Nothing beats looking into their eyes.
Writing and talking are two great ways to communicate with your partner. Nothing warms the heart like touching email or hearing your partner’s voice. But it is just not the same as looking into your partner’s eyes. So endow in a webcam, and add that added dimension to keep your long-distance relationship warm. Even if it is just for a few minutes, a face-to-face converse with that loved one of your lives will keep things alive and fresh. And invest in a good webcam: you want to be able to see them loud and clear.