Many married couples face problems when their professions or work schedule does not allow enough time to spend together. Often in a career like retail or law enforcement, working on weekends comes with the job. Professions of a married couple can raise the problems, but they can be solved easily. If the business is causing issues in your relationship to the point where you want to save your marriage and stop divorce, look at some of these solutions below.
Arrange Your Work Schedule
You may be something that is beyond your control. If your spouse is angry that you never have weekends to spend with her/him or the family, you may want to look at underlying issues. Is your weekend or late night schedule affecting your availability as a partner? When you do have to time off, is your partner at work? Think about these.
Abort Imbalance From The Relationship
Look at the days and hours you do have together. If they don’t coincide with meals, quiet time at home or time for intimacy, this will quickly cause an imbalance in the relationship. To save your marriage and stop divorce, look at the week with an open mind and try to look at how many hours you do spend together and whether there is time for enough quality time there.
Plan Occasional Time Off
Another underlying issue to your work schedule affecting your marriage is that it may cause your partner to feel less important to you than your job. If you find you are mostly at work when your partner has time off and don’t make an effort to change your schedule or plan occasional time off, the message you send is that your relationship is not as important as work. If possible, work within your department to arrange for some hours off when your partner is off.
Plan to be at home after your work shift when possible, instead of the round of office drinks out or personal errands or commitments. Let your partner know spending time with them when you don’t have work commitments is your priority. Remember that actions speak louder than words, and your partner will appreciate your effort.
Understand Your Partner’s Position
Many couples face problems because their careers are very different and they can’t relate to each other. If one is, for example, without a degree and working in law enforcement, there may be less flexibility with arranging time off, finding a substitute or changing jobs while retaining the same pay or benefits. Someone working in a corporate job may be able to easily arrange paid time off, work regular business hours and have flexibility in the job change. If your careers vary widely, try to understand your partner’s position and be realistic of expectations. Many times it is possible to save the marriage and stop divorce, and arguments can be prevented if the partners listen and understand each other.
Request A Schedule That Better Matches Your Partner’s
A marriage can suffer stress when the couple has schedules that limit personal time together. It is essential to understand your partner’s work and why the program might be inflexible. However, try to make efforts to arrange for time off or request a schedule that better matches your partner’s. Also, make the most of the time you have off by spending it with your partner. Try to keep communicating with your partner so they feel necessary to you and a priority. To save the marriage and stop a divorce, keep your relationship in mind when you are balancing your work and life.